Confidence is an amazing quality to process! Some people appear to be born with it, while others seem cursed to a life of consistently second-guessing themselves. Perhaps, since you are reading this article, you may be the latter of the two. In this article, I am going to give you some pointers on steps you can take to boost your self-confidence and credibility with others.
While working in Corporate America, I interacted with dozens of men and woman (at both the top and bottom of the corporate ladder). I watched how they represented themselves and how they convinced others that they were the authority on any subject. As I watched their interactions and spoke with them myself, I became aware that many of them were simply “faking confidence”. I learned that people do not have to feel confident to act confident. Being someone who naturally second-guessed themselves, I learned an enormous amount from these interactions. Over time, I became an individual who not only appeared more self-confident to others, but also felt it on the inside.
Whether you want to become a better communicator, stand out in a job interview, boost your self-esteem, etc. – appearing confident is an important part of the process. Below are the steps that I followed to make myself a confident individual.
1.) Walk Confidently and Sit Up Straight
Keep your back straight and your shoulders back. When you walk tall and confidently, people assume that you are prepared and confident. In turn, you will feel more empowered and self-assured internally. Whether you are out with friends or in a business meeting, be conscious of your posture. When you slouch, you are minimizing your body, appearing uncertain and unconfident.
Next time you are in public, look around and notice the different ways people carry themselves. Choose who you feel is the most secure and confident individual. PEOPLE WATCH! That is a fantastic way to develop your style.
2.) Make Eye Contact
You want to look comfortable and engaged. However, if you make too much eye contact, you appear too tense or direct. If you make too little eye contact, you appear nervous or inattentive. When speaking to others, look into their eyes. If you are talking to a group, alternate between each person. Occasionally break eye contact, as not to appear “creepy.” Looking into someone’s eyes may feel awkward in the beginning, but you MUST force yourself to do it. Over time, you will become more comfortable with it.
3.) Firmly Shake Hands
Introductions typically make lasting impressions. If you shake someone’s hand with a clammy, limp hand, this does not signify confidence. Instead, grip the other person’s hand firmly and intentionally. Remember, a handshake is not a contest of who can squeeze the hardest.
Confident people smile warmly and self-assuredly. A smile signifies that you are a positive and happy individual. Positivity is contagious and people typically enjoy being around others who possess this character quality.
Next time you are in public, smile at someone as you pass them. Chances are they will smile back. Try to make this impression wherever you are.
5.) Speak Slowly and Concisely
Fluent and well-versed people speak clearly and at a slower pace. If you speak too quickly, you appear less confident and rushed. Although this may take self-awareness and extra thought, focus on your pace when you speak. Taking your time will actually help you form better sentences and in turn sound more confident.
6.) Stop Wondering What Others are Thinking of You
We all want people to be impressed by us and our accomplishments! This plays an important role in our self-confidence and perception of ourselves. However, what people think about you is NOT the most important component to confidence. Stop overthinking the situation; this can ruin your happiness. You will over-analyze every comment, glance, and whisper. Your thoughts will either increase your insecurity or increase your confidence. Instead, focus on improving yourself and making yourself proud. Trust yourself! You aren’t like anyone else and you do not need to try to meet other’s expectations.
7.) Dress For Success
Dress in a way that makes you feel empowered and confident. Your clothing choices and appearance have an enormous impact on how you are perceived. If you feel confident and your appearance represents who you are, hold you head high and proud. People will associate your personality with your style.
Practice being confident! Look in the mirror and pretend you are meeting someone important. If you are going to an important meeting or interview, practice answering the questions with confidence. This will help you become more acquainted with how you want to present yourself. Lastly, BREATH! If you are not a confident person by nature, you will need to put yourself in situations that may feel awkward and unnatural. If you are in a situation that makes you feel less confident, take some deep breaths. Breathing slowly and deeply has a calming effect that can help you to regain your composure.
If you are an introverted and shy individual, these steps may be difficult to follow. But don’t let insecurity or doubt hold you back from trying! Confidence is just around the corner!
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