Break-ups hurt! They make you feel empty and lonely – like all the effort and emotion you poured into your relationship was absolutely pointless!
Because of this, many people would rather stay in a relationship than go through the necessary pain of getting out.
Perhaps you fear the loneliness, the hours of sobbing, all the self-doubt, the anger, and that never-ending pain in your chest.
All of this is part of the healing process!
Perhaps you are dependent on your toxic partner and find it almost impossible to break-up with them!
You absolutely need to identify the signs of a toxic relationship and find the courage to get that person out of your life.
Below are 5 signs that you are in an absolutely toxic relationship.
1.) You Feel Horrible About Yourself
Even though you consistently push the negative feelings deep down inside of you, you know that you are in a miserable relationship.
You know that you have given up a part of yourself that you use to love!
Sit back and think about all the ways that you have changed. Has your significant other been slowly and selfishly changing you?
The enjoyment that you once felt in your relationship is completely gone. You are left in a miserable, lonely relationship.
You look at your future and all you see is a dead-end street because you know that you chose the wrong person to spend it with.
And yet, somehow you can’t seem to find the courage to end the relationship – at least not yet!
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2.) You Have An Intense Fear of Breaking Up With Them
…because you know that they have the ability to ruin your life! (At least that is what you think right now.)
Perhaps they are a self-obsessed narcissist who doesn’t take rejection well – at all!
Are you scared that they will ruin your reputation, tell awful stories about you, harass you, bully you, or break every boundary to stay in touch with you so that you can’t forget about them and move on.
You feel like breaking up with them will ruin your mental health even more than it already is!
Even though break-ups are never pleasant, there should be a certain level of respect that you give each other!
If you know your partner is the kind of person that responds in a toxic manner to rejection, that is an even better reason to break things off immediately!
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3.) You Always Come Second In The Relationship
Your partner’s opinion always matters over yours!
You feel like you could never give your opinion again and your partner wouldn’t even notice.
All they want from you is your 100% acceptance and admiration. Everything else is unacceptable.
Basically, you are in a one-person relationship – because you really don’t matter.
In the end, you feel like you were tricked into entering a relationship on completely false pretenses.
Now, they think they have you emotionally hooked and they feel certain that you aren’t going anywhere!
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4.) The People Who Really Love you Don’t Like Your Partner
Think of the people in your life that have loved you the most. Your parents, siblings, best friends, etc.
Do they like your partner?
Usually, if the person is toxic, the answer is, “No!”
You see, the people who truly love you have a way of sensing whether someone is a total fool – often a lot quicker than you!
They aren’t emotionally involved with this person, so they can often see the person for who they really are.
However, be careful! If your partner is toxic, they will try to separate you from the people they see are “catching on” to who they really are.
They are manipulative and will stop at nothing to divide you from those who do not like them.
Allow your friends to give you loving, constructive criticism.
It may be difficult to hear that you are becoming a different person, but it may be the only way to save you from allowing someone to destroy your sense of self-worth.
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5.) Your Relationship is Emotionally & Mentally Exhausting
You are exhausted – all the time!
The source of the exhaustion: your relationship.
Perhaps you are starting to experience far worse anxiety than you have ever had before?
Maybe your health is starting to take a downward spiral?
…severe headaches, gut problems, constipation, acid reflux, chest pain, neck pain, etc.
You are emotional and moody now! But you know that you are a naturally positive and happy person!
You wonder, “What is happening to me!?”
First, you must identify that your relationship is causing this emotional and mental exhaustion.
If you feel hopeless, seek professional help!
Even if you break off the relationship, it will take time to allow your body to unwind and relax.
Your goal must be to get your health and happiness back!
If you can identify with any of these 5 signs, you may be in a toxic relationship.
This list is by no means exhaustive, so you may be experiencing many more negative emotions than listed above.
However, the most important thing is for you to find a way to get your health and happiness back.
A part of this may be ending the relationship or going to receive professional help from a counselor.
Remember, life is too short to be in a relationship with someone who will suck the joy out of everything.