When you hear the term ‘alpha female’, what do you think of?
Women who are attractive, overbearing, powerful, self-obsessed, captivating, or simply natural-born leaders?
Everyone has their own idea of what this means.
The truth is, an alpha female can be any of these things – depending on who you are talking to!
The defining factor is that they are the female with the most influence in the room – whether everyone is aware of it or not.
Below are 11 ways you can tell who is an alpha female.
1.) They Always Seem Self-Assured
If you are talking to an Alpha Female, you immediately think, “I need more self-confidence like her!”
Even when they are discussing things that they have failed at, they always seem confident in their ability to improve themselves.
Sometimes, it almost feels like they are knowledgeable about every topic they talk about.
Finance, politics, fashion, career, world news – it seems like they know about everything!
Whether they are internally confident or not, they always have a self-assured presence.
P.S. There is a big difference between confidence and arrogance! The alpha knows the difference!
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2.) Other Women Copy their Body Language
Next time you are with a group of ladies, watch who they are taking their ‘social cues’ from.
You will notice that they may start sitting or standing a certain way, using the same tone of voice, or even laughing the same way she does.
Several years ago, I worked for a lady who was the definition of “girl boss” and she was awesome!
After being around her for several months, I noticed that I had started to laugh and talk like her!
Why? Because in this situation, she was the alpha female and I was unknowingly taking social cues from her.
3.) They Do Not Let People Walk Over Them
If you know something about their past, you may see a pattern of standing up for themselves.
They do not tolerate people who want to badmouth or take advantage of them.
They aren’t afraid to confront the behavior and move on.
Although they are firm, they are also fair. However, they aren’t afraid of hurting people’s feelings or offending them.
Their goal is to go through life as fairly as possible, cleansing their life of the toxic people who often show up for a bit!
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4.) When They Leave, The Party Is Over
When the alpha female leaves the room, the chatter may die down or things might start to get boring.
If the person leaving the room is not the alpha female, nothing will change.
The funny thing about an alpha female is, there can only be one at a time!
So if the top alpha female leaves, another one may be in the group to “take over” in her place.
5.) They Are Fiercely Loyal
Once you have the love and trust of the alpha female, she will stand by you through thick and thin.
Because she does not allow others to walk over her, she does not allow this to happen to her friends either.
However, although she is cordial, it is not easy to completely gain her trust. This takes time and consistency on your part.
Once you have her trust, you will be like family and she will always have your back.
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6.) They Have A Certain Energy About Them
This energy can come in different forms, based off the personality of the Alpha Female.
Often, you will see a conversational and bubbly personality.
They love sharing entertaining stories and making everyone laugh. They may enjoy hosting parties at their house and bringing everyone together.
Simply put, they are infectious and people feel a positive energy when they are around them.
7.) They Steal The Attention Without Even Trying
Even if they are in a large group of ladies, the alpha female always steals the show – little by little.
They have social power!
Gradually, the other ladies in the room will turn their attention to her. This is completely normal for the alpha female and she is used to it.
She can hold peoples attentions with ease – and never becomes boring or redundant.
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8.) They Don’t Only Talk About Themselves
Always talking about yourself does not make you an alpha female!
It just makes you an annoying conversation hoarder! (Read “11 Signs You Are a Narcissist”)
The alpha female knows when to take the attention off of you and shift it onto someone else.
She is gifted at guiding a conversation around a room, making everyone feel appreciated and involved.
9.) They Always Seem Resilient
If life gets them down, they bounce back unusually quick!
They are planners and they execute them in a systematic way. When life goes against them, they always find a way to get back up.
Whether it is injustice, financial difficulties, illness, or a life setback, they always find a way to persevere!
And when you discuss their life difficulties, they always maintain a sense of optimism for the future.
10.) People Are Often Jealous of Them
When a woman steals the show and makes entertaining look effortless, there is always going to be some ladies who are jealous!
You may notice that when the alpha female leaves, there may be a few people who bad-mouth her for petty reasons.
These people are insecure and jealous because they know that they will never have the poise and social energy that she has.
Although an alpha female is often aware of other’s jealousy, her self-confidence makes it all look trivial and small.
11.) They May Not Be Alphas Everywhere they Go
Although some alpha females can captivate attention everywhere they go, other’s only have these tendencies in certain places.
Perhaps only in a professional environment, while hosting an event in their home, or only with a certain group of friends.
Sometimes, based off of her energy levels, she may decide to sit back and let someone else become the alpha female of the group.
Although this may sound confusing, each woman has a different level of alpha-ness. Some are high, while others are low.
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The alpha female was not born with the ability to lead and steal the show!
Although some people are born with a more captivating personality than others, this can be a learned personality trait.
First, start focusing on how to look confident on the outside. This will draw people to you much more quickly.
As time goes by, this will grow into an internal confidence that will make you more far more likable in social situations!
Or, perhaps you are already an alpha female.
